HOW TO BE A REAL AND TRUE FRIEND

HOW TO BE A REAL AND TRUE FRIEND

by misspee

BE HONEST

Being an honest friend makes you dependable because your friend will always count on you to deliver the harsh truth when they need it. The truth hurts only once but a lie hurts every time one remembers it.

BE LOYAL

Loyalty is choice not a sense of duty. In every friendship you either choose to be loyal on not, and loyalty is the foundation for every steady, storm weathering friendship. How you react when your friend is going through a tough time can be a semblance of your loyalty or lack thereof. Staying true to your friend behind their backs, defending them in their absence now that’s the definition of loyalty.

BE HUMBLE

Advising a proud person is not an easy feat because proud people refuse to listen when they are offered any form of advice that that goes against what they believe to be right. They would rather drown in their folly than listen to reason. Pride often leads to isolation because the know-it-alls tend to cut the people who try to help them out of their lives. If you are humble then you are not afraid to show your weaknesses and vulnerability. People who are vulnerable build strong friendships because they open themselves up to other people in such a way that makes it easier for other people to show them love. If you refuse to show your vulnerability then you will live an anxious life because you live in fear of getting hurt, betrayed or abandoned by the other person. A real and true friend realizes that only those who show their vulnerability are capable of building strong friendships.

COMMUNICATE

You have to share your feelings and thoughts with your friend if you have hopes of building a strong relationship with your friend. Every friendship which endures the tests of time has communication as the foundation upon which it is built. Communication is a two way street, either you talk and your friend listens or vice versa. Wanting your voice to be the only one heard can be the breaking point for a friendship. Most friends drift apart because they do not communicate, one keeps their opinions to themselves and the end result is that is that they end up each doing their own thing.

LEARN TO COMPROMISE

Compromise is defined as “an intermediate state between conflicting alternatives reached by mutual concession.” Compromising should leave both parties happy i.e. the outcome should be mutually beneficial. As friends you are going to have differing opinions at some point in time and when that point is reached you should be willing to compromise. Willing to compromise does not mean that you have to go against your beliefs, if the compromise is acceptable go for it, if not then stand your ground. Sometimes you compromise to make your friend happy then end up resenting him/her for making you go against the very ideas you were supposed to defend.

In conclusion, being a real and true friend is not only based on your honesty, communication skills, humility and willingness to compromise but there are other things you have to adopt as an individual as well which are not stated above.

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